Positive thinking doesn’t come naturally to everyone. But kicking the ass of negative patterns of thinking is half the battle for most of life’s problems and mental health difficulties. Self-talk and self-awareness (the way you talk to yourself and your awareness of what you’re thinking, doing and why) is the key to learning how to be more positive. Learn some skills with the stuff here. It takes practice, but it’s well worth the effort.
I’m sure most people in this world have practised negative self-talk, including me. Negative self-talk is an unhealthy habit that erodes mental well-being. One of my bad habits is listing all sorts of excuses as to why I won’t be able to achieve something (negative self-talk).
As an example, I tell myself that I don’t have adequate leadership skills. The positive self-talk that I give myself instead is that regardless of my past or current leadership skills, I can only improve on them from here on. I’m currently learning what it means to be a good leader in practice (rather than a leader in name), so I can identify how I can improve my leadership capabilities.
Coming up with positive self-talk is easier said than done, especially when negative self-talk has become a habit. It’s possible, and it takes effort and repetition (practice), but it’s worth the effort. Another example of negative self-talk is “no one is coming up to talk to me because I don’t look interesting enough” at a conference or event.
This could be replaced with positive self-talk such as “like me, many people have anxieties about networking at events – perhaps I could take the initiative to break the ice by introducing myself first.” What negative self-talk do you practise, and what positive self-talk can you use to replace it?