By: Hasan Basri Tanjung
It is said that one day Lukman Al-Hakim – a model father who was enshrined in the name of the surah of the Qur’an – was asked by his son. “O my father, what is the best thing in humans?” Lukman answered, “Religion.” He asked again, “If there are two things?”. “Religion and wealth,” he answered. “If there are three things?” he asked again. “Religion, wealth and shame.” “If there are four things?” he continued. “Religion, wealth, shame, and good morals.” “If there are five things?” Lukman answered, “Religion, wealth, shame, good morals, and generosity.”
“If there are six things?” Lukman stressed, “O my son, if these five cases have gathered to someone, he is among those who fear and is a lover of Allah.” (Fair Al-Ghiryani, Hikmah Luqman Al-Hakim, 2015). When hearing the phrase “Ya Abati” (O my father), a familiar atmosphere in a family can be imagined.
How cannot, a civilized child greets or asks his father in a polite language (QS 17:23). Likewise, when you hear a father greet his child gently, “ya bunayya” (O my son). When a warm greeting, like this, is said sincerely, then there will be closeness and affection.
This statement also makes the mind of the writer float for a moment to the land of the Prophets, where Ananda Ihza Aulia is searching for knowledge and studying manners.
Tracing the feature “Qur’an Ministry of Religion “, at least the greeting” yaa Abati “is found in six verses. Two verses tell the story of the Prophet Yusuf (AS) when he expressed his dream to his father Jacob AS, who saw 11 stars, the sun and moon prostrate to him (QS 12: 4,100).
The next four verses tell a dialogue between the Prophet Ibrahim and his father Azar, to worship Allah and leave idols (QS 19: 42-45). One verse about the daughter of the Prophet Suaib AS who put his heart to the Prophet Musa AS(QS 28:26), and another about the story of the Prophet Ismail AS when he was sacrificed by his father, the Prophet Ibrahim AS. (Qur’an 37: 102).
Indeed, the greeting “O my father” illustrates the closeness, openness, and effective communication between parents (teachers) and children (students) in family education. In the aspect of content, the greeting contained a spill or an expression of the heart. There is also a form of questions, invitations, prohibitions, and reprimands. Also, showing sincere requests and obedience to parents.
The words, attitudes, and good behavior is a form of education that is taught by the Qur’an through a noble figure. Nothing but uswah (exemplary model) for us to strengthen character education in the family.
To be honest, have we been able to build a conducive learning atmosphere in the family-like Lukman al-Hakim? Perhaps, when children pour out feelings or ask questions, we often neglect or evade with various reasons.
If we are able to answer one question, then they ask again, are we still responding with good tone and diction? Or, when unable to answer, do we honestly admit or apologize? The sincerity of a parent greeting, “O my son”, will be welcomed warmly by the child with “O my father”, or a similar expression. The greatest happiness for parents is the presence of a civilized child.
If so, the message of the Prophet must be thought deeply into. “There is no best gift from a father to his child, but good manners,” (Ahmad Ahmad). Allahua’lam bish-shawab.