[:ID]MARAH ITU MUDAH, MENAHANNYA YANG SUSAH[:en]ANGER IS EASY, HOLDING IT IS HARD[:]

[:ID]oleh: Agung Sasongko

Satu kisah, Ali bin Abi Thalib berada dalam sebuah peperangan. Saat menghadapi lawannya, Ali bin Abi Thalib dalam posisi unggul. Ketika hendak menebas musuhnya, sang lawan meludahi wajah sepupu Rasulullah SAW ini.

Seketika Ali menahan diri. Ia terdiam. Sang musuh heran. “Wahai Ali, kenapaengkau tidak jadi melawanku?”.

Setelah itu, Ali pun menjawab, “Ketika aku menjatuhkanmu, aku ingin membunuhmu karena Allah. Akan tetapi ketika engkau meludahiku, maka niatku membunuhmu karena marahku kepadamu,” kata Ali.

Sikap ini teladan dari seorang sahabat Rasulullah SAW. Ia tahu, menjadi marah akan menghilangkan akal dan pikiran. Satu hal yang tak kehendaki ketika seseorang ingin memperoleh kemuliaan dari Sang Pencipta. Bisa saja Ali meenebas lawannya. Namun, Ali RA memilih menahan amarahnya.

Sebagaimana diriwayatkan dari Abu Hurairah RA, seorang sahabat pernah meminta nasihat kepada Rasulullah SAW. “Berilah saya nasihat wahai Rasulullah,” ujarnya. “La taghdab (jangan engkau marah),” jawab Rasulullah singkat. Lelaki itu kembali mengulang pertanyaannya, tapi jawaban Rasulullah tetap saja sama baginya. (HR Bukhari).

Imam Nawawi mengatakan, makna dari jangan marah ini dalam hadis Rasulullah SAW tersebut adalah jangan sampai seseorang menumpahkan kemarahan, sehingga membutakan hatinya.  Ketika seorang ingin marah, ketika itulah ia harus bisa menguasai dirinya. Sehingga, rasa marah tidak memengaruhinya untuk bisa berpikir, berucap, dan mengambil keputusan dengan baik dan hati yang jernih.

Karenanya, dianjurkan kepada  seseorang yang diselimuti rasa marah hendaklah menenangkan dirinya terlebih dahulu sebelum bertindak atau berucap. Dalam hadis riwayat Ahmad, Rasulullah SAW bersabda, “Apabila salah seorang dari kalian marah dalam keadaan berdiri maka hendaknya dia duduk. Kalau marahnya belum juga hilang maka hendaknya dia berbaring.”

Sebagaimana hadis dari Sulaiman bin Surd yang menceritakan, “Suatu hari saya duduk bersama Nabi SAW. Ketika itu, ada dua orang yang saling memaki. Salah satunya, wajahnya telah merah karena diliputi marah. Rasulullah SAW bersabda, ‘Sungguh saya mengetahui ada satu kalimat, jika dibaca oleh orang ini maka marahnya akan hilang. Jika dia membaca ta’awuz a’udzu billahi minas syaithanir rajiim. marahnya akan hilang.” (HR Bukhari dan Muslim).

Di kehidupan yang serbamodern ini, masyarakat begitu banyak menghadapi dorongan untuk marah. Dari update status di sosial media misalnya, sangat berpotensi memicu kemarahan. Atau mungkin ketika berkendara, ada pengendara lain yang seenaknya sendiri dalam berkendara sangat mungkin memicu amarah orang lain.

Menjadi marah sangatlah mudah, meredamnya itu yang sulit. Namun, ketika kita sudah tahu apa dampak dari marah itu, semisal terputusnya hubungan tali silaturahim atau yang lebih fatal lagi berurusan dengan hukum. Contoh lain, bagaimana dengan dampak kesehatan, sejumlah peneliti mengaitkan marah dan risiko penyakit. Jadi patut kita renungkan betapa pentingnya menahan marah.

Dalam Alquran, dikatakan orang yang mampu menahan amarah termasuk golongan orang bertakwa yang berhak atas surga. (QS Ali Imran [3] ayat 133-134). Nabi pun berpesan, “Orang yang kuat bukanlah orang yang tangkas dalam bertarung, melainkan orang yang bisa menyapih diri ketika marah.” (HR Malik).

Allah SWT memberikan sifat kemanusiaan kita berupa emosi atau rasa marah untuk menjadi ujian. Ketika kita mampu mengatasi ujian tersebut tentu akan lahir seorang pribadi yang sabar dan bersyukur. Wallahu a’lam bisshawab.

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By: Agung Sasongko

There is a story, Ali bin Abi Talib was in a war. When facing his opponent, Ali bin Abi Talib was in a superior position. When he was about to cut down his enemy, the opponent spits on his face, the face of the Prophet SAW’s cousin.

When Ali held himself, he was silent. The enemy was surprised. “O Ali, why did you stop?”

Ali replied, “When I dropped you, I wanted to kill you because of Allah. But when you spit on me, my intention was to kill you because I was angry with you,”

This attitude is an example of a friend of the Prophet Muhammad SAW. He knew, being angry would eliminate reason and thought. One thing that is not desired when someone wants to get glory from the Creator. Ali could have freed his opponent. However, Ali RA chose to restrain his anger.

As narrated from Abu Hurairah RA, a friend once asked the Prophet SAW for advice. “Give me advice, O Messenger of Allah,” he said. “La taghdab (do not be angry),” answered the Prophet briefly. The man repeated his question, but the Prophet’s answer for him was still the same. (HR Bukhari).

Imam Nawawi said, the meaning of this anger in the hadith of the Prophet SAW is not to let someone spill anger, so that it blinds his heart. When someone wants to be angry, that’s when he must be able to control himself. So, anger does not affect him to be able to think, say, and make decisions with a good and clear heart.

Therefore, it is recommended for someone who is full with anger that they should calm himself first before acting or speaking. In Ahmad’s hadith, Rasulullah SAW said, “If one of you is angry while standing, he should sit down. If his anger has not yet disappeared, he should lie down.”

As the hadith from Sulaiman bin Surd tells,” One day I sat with the Prophet SAW. At that time, there were two people who cursed at each other. For one thing, his face was red with anger. Rasulullah SAW said, “Indeed I know one sentence if read by this person then his anger will disappear. If he reads ta’awuz a’udzu billahi minas shaithanir rajiim. his anger will disappear. “(HR Bukhari and Muslim).

In this modern life, people face so much impulse to get angry. For example from status updates on social media, it has the potential to trigger anger. Or maybe when driving, there are other drivers who drive however they wish which very likely provoke anger for others.

Being angry is very easy, but holding it is difficult. However, when we already know what the impact of anger causes, such as breaking the ties of friendship or even more fatal like dealing with the law. How about toward health effects, a number of researchers associated anger and risks of diseases, so we should ponder how important it is to resist anger.

In the Quran, it is said that people who are able to restrain anger are among the pious people who are entitled to heaven. (QS Al-Imran [3] verses 133-134). The Prophet also advised, “A strong person is not someone who is agile in fighting, but someone who can control yourself when angry.”(HR Malik).

Allah SWT gives our human nature the various emotions or anger to be a test. When we are able to overcome these tests naturally a person who is patient and grateful will be born. Wallahu a’lam bisshawab.

Source: republika.co.id[:]

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